5 Traits That Happen When Introverts Fall In Love - Falling in love is one of the most romantic and scary things for an introvert. Why? Because for an introvert, it is not easy to fall in love. Love takes away many things from him, especially loneliness.
Quoted from the book "Introvert in Love: The Quiet Way to Happily Ever After" by Sophia Dembling (2015), an introvert who is in love has characteristics that are shown through their behavior when they meet someone they like. An introvert is different from an extrovert in the way he shows his love.
5 Characteristics of Introverts Falling In Love
According to Sophia Dembling (2015), there are several signs that are usually felt by introverted men and women who are in love. Here are the features!
1. Think long before expressing love
For an introvert, expressing love is a difficult thing. Introverts are known to be good thinkers and planners, meaning they don't act rashly in a place or situation. An introvert plans everything well, including matters of love. This is what sometimes makes introverts trapped in falling in love in silence. Yes! Because it takes a long planning to reveal it.
Basically introverts are not too interested in interacting with other people. Introverts prefer an imaginary world that they build themselves in their minds. They don't let too many people get too close, except for a few friends, and when there's someone they love, an introvert will allow that person to break down their strongholds. Of course, this takes a long time for introverts.
When introverts fall in love, that's the most memorable and beautiful moment in their lives. They will fall in love too deeply and feel that falling in love is like a gale in a very calm world. Even when in love, an introvert can think of someone he loves wherever he is. Because falling in love is an extraordinary thing for him, it takes a long time and thought for them to express love.
2. Willing to leave his comfort zone
For an introvert, one of the hardest things for them to find love is meeting other people, because most introverts are "homey" people or like quiet and alone activities. Therefore, when they fall in love, introverts will leave their comfort zone to meet their loved ones but still need some alone time.
When going on a date, usually an introvert does not like crowded places such as cafes or tourist attractions. Therefore, when in a relationship with an extrovert or ambivert, it will encourage him to get out of his comfort zone to be able to adapt to his partner.
The existence of love overcomes discomfort so that when an introvert tries to blend in in an extroverted world without any problems, it is a sacrifice for him.
3. Show actions, not words
Introverts communicate with their partners in intimate and deep conversations. However, they don't like small talk that doesn't really matter. Since introverts don't talk much, they prefer action as their love language. An introvert may choose to buy gifts or help their crush when trouble is compared to flirting and flirting.
Because of their quiet nature, introverts can be reliable observers. In this way, they can see what their idol likes and needs. When in love, an introvert can even remember every word that his idol said.
4. Be easy to open and trust
An introvert is not a person who is easy to open and trust just anyone. However, once you feel comfortable with someone, introverts can open up more easily. They can tell everything about him, from the important things to the unimportant though.
The open and trusting nature of introverts begins with openness and a sense of comfort when interacting with their idol. The sense of comfort that is felt can even change the nature of an introvert. Of course, love has a big impact on their behavior and attitudes.
5. Easy to smile and laugh when together
Introverts are known as people who smile and laugh less. Not because they are insensitive, do not know emotions, or are not humorous. However, it's all because introverts tend to take care of themselves
However, it's all because introverts tend to keep themselves from looking careless or incompetent in front of others, so sometimes they choose to hide their emotions. No wonder the characteristics of introverts who are in love are usually difficult to predict.
The romance world of introverted men and women will be different when they fall in love. They will find it easier to smile and laugh, especially when they see their idol. Although it makes it look strange, in fact, this is often done by introverts when they fall in love. They can even smile secretly just because they see their idol.
Well, from the five signs according to Dembling (2015), are there any that appear in us or maybe people we like? It could be a sign that we or he is in love. In addition, we can also learn many things from the characteristics of introverts who fall in love. From this, we can learn that relationships don't have to be like fireworks all the time, silence and serenity are equally important.
Tranquility when together is what introverts seek when in love. In the end, introvert or extrovert personality is not a problem. We alone know best when we fall in love. And when two hearts love each other then they will surely find a way to be together.