Falling in love is one of the most romantic and scary things for introverts. Why? Because for introverts, it's not easy to feel love. Love requires a lot of things from it, especially loneliness.
Quoted from the book "Introvert In Love: The Quiet Way To Happily Ever" by Sophia Dublin (2015), an introvert who falls in love has the characteristics shown through their behavior when they meet someone they like. An introvert is different from an extrovert in the way he shows his love.
While extroverts like to socialize and get energy from other people's meetings, on the other hand introverts prefer solitude and get energy from calm and peace (Nelson, & Shapiro, 2011).
5 Introvert Characteristics Fall in Love
According to Sophia Debing (2015), there are several signs that are usually felt by men and women who are introverted who are in love. Here are the features!
1. think long before expressing love
For introverts, expressing love is a difficult thing. Introverts are known as good thinkers and planners, which means they do not act in a hurry somewhere or situation. Introverts planned everything well, including love problems. This is what sometimes makes introverts trapped in love in silence. Yes! Because it took a long time to reveal it.
Basically introverted is not too interested in interacting with other people. Introverts prefer the imaginary world they wake up in their minds. They did not let too many people too close, except for some friends, and when someone they loved, an introverted would let that person break down their fortress. Of course, this takes a long time for introverts.
When introvert falls in love, that's the most memorable and beautiful moment in their lives. They will fall in love too deeply and feel that falling in love is like strong winds in a very calm world. Even when falling in love, an introvert can think of someone he loves wherever he is. Because falling in love is an extraordinary thing for him, it takes a long time, and thinks of expressing love.
2. Willing to leave the comfort zone
For introverts, one of the hardest things for them from finding love is to meet other people, because most introverts are "comfortable" people or like calm and alone activities. Therefore, when they fall in love, introverts will leave their comfort zone to meet the people they love but still need time alone.
When dating, usually introverts don't like crowded places like cafes or tourist attractions. Therefore, when in a relationship with extroverts or ambiverts, it will encourage him to get out of his comfort zone to be able to adapt to his partner.
The existence of love, overcoming discomfort so that when an introvert tries to blend in an extroverted world without problems, it is the sacrifice for him.
3. Show actions, not words
Introverts communicate with their partners such as intimate and inside conversations. However, they don't like small talk that isn't too important. Because introverts don't talk much, they prefer actions as their love language. An introvert can choose to buy gifts or help their crush when the problem is compared to teasing and teasing.
Because of their calm, an introvert can be a reliable observer. In this way, they can see what their idol likes and needs. When falling in love, an introvert can even remember every word he says.
4. Easily opened and trusted
An introvert is not a person who is easily open and trusts anyone. However, once you feel comfortable with someone, introverts can open up easily. They can tell everything about him, from important things to those that are not important.
Things for those who are not important.
Introverted and trusted property begins with openness and comfort when interacting with their idols. The feeling felt even able to change introverted properties. Of course, love has a big impact on their behavior and attitude.
5. Easily smile and laugh when together
Introvert is known as a person who smiles and laughs. Not because they are not sensitive, don't know emotions, or not funny. However, it was all because introverts tended to take care of themselves
However, it's all because introvert tends to make yourself not careless or incompetent in front of others, so sometimes they choose to hide their emotions. No wonder the characteristics of Introverts who fall in love are usually difficult to predict.
The world of romance of men and women introverts will be different when they fall in love. They will find it easier to smile and laugh, especially when they see their idols. Even though it makes it look strange, actually this is often done by introverts when they fall in love. They can even smile quietly only because they see their idols.
Well, from five signs according to Debing (2015), does anyone appear in the US or maybe the person we like? It could be a sign that we fell in love. In addition, we can also learn many things from introverted characteristics that fall in love. From here we can learn that relationships don't have to be like fireworks all the time, silence and calm as important.
Tranquility when together is what introverts are sought after. In the end, introverted or extroverted personality is not a problem. We know ourselves the best when we fall in love. And when two hearts love each other then they will definitely find a way to be together.